The maid of honour is sometimes referred to as “chief bridesmaid” or the “matron of honour” (if she is already married), and she has various duties and ways she must help the bride.
Your friend or sister is going to need your support both in the run up to the wedding and on the big day itself – there’s much more to it than just planning the hen party, y’know!
To get an idea of what your maid of honour duties are, here’s everything you need to know.
Organise the Other Bridesmaids
As the maid of honour, you’re leading the rest of the bridesmaids so make sure they’re all organised. Help to round everyone up for dress shopping sessions and for fittings. Take some stress off the bride by planning the itinerary for any dress shopping days out – look for a fun place to go for lunch and if you need to book appointments at any of the shops, make sure you’ve left enough time to navigate from place to place.
It’s traditional for the bride to pay for the bridesmaid dresses, however this isn’t always the case. Make sure this is discussed – as well as accessories, professional hair and makeup – to save any awkwardness.
Plan the Hen Party
The maid of honour’s real moment to shine is the hen party. You will take the lead in organising this so make sure you put a lot of thought into it. Consult all the bridesmaids for ideas and ask the bride who she’d like to attend.
It might be that you need to arrange two celebrations: a hen party for the girls and a more mature, bridal shower style celebration that the bride’s mum and older relatives can attend.
The Day Before the Wedding
If there are any hired items that need collecting, you can help out by offering to pick them up so the couple aren’t stressing about these things the day before their wedding.
The maid of honour might be needed to help set up the reception room the night before, if the venue allows this, and you might also accompany the bride to any last minute beauty appointments, such as a manicure and pedicure.
Hold the Bride’s Bouquet
During the wedding ceremony, you will need to hold the bride’s bouquet – you may also be asked to give a reading or to be a witness whilst the newlyweds sign the register.
After the ceremony, the happy couple will leave first and the maid of honour and best man will follow together.